I'm celebrating all the things I said no to this year.
I want to say no to more.
I'm committing to constraint.
Constraint allows me to:
Say yes to the things that really fulfill me
Focus on my strengths
Concentrate my efforts
Take trips with my kids, like this one where we went to Quesnel and I was able to show them where I'm from and spend time with my father who likely doesn't have long left.
Constraint doesn't come naturally to me. I love learning all the things. I love the rush of taking on a new challenge. There's a fear of missing out, of missing something important. I want to be helpful, especially when I see others who are experiencing overwhelm and project fatigue.
But by not constraining, I miss out on it all, because I'm never present.
By not constraining, I'm helpful to no one, because I'm also running around overwhelmed and taking on too much.
By not constraining, I'm perpetuating the problem instead of helping to solve it from the root.
This is an age of data overload, opportunity overload, choice overload.
Constraint is the only antidote.
Constraint may feel restrictive, but it's the only thing that will buy us our freedom.
It's a skill and we can practice it daily in many areas of our life.
I know if I want to practice constraint, the price is feeling temporary FOMO, guilt, regret. But those are necessary feelings to also create space, sufficiency, and order.
Let me know in the comments if you want to practice constraint in an area of your life too.